When your child is acting out you probably yell and scream at him and this it’s not the solution. In those moments you don’t know how to react and the first thing that you do is to raise your voice at your child. You need to take this problem with calm and wisdom and use some methods to get your child’s attention. Sometimes, being a parent is very hard and yelling at your child can be as damaging as hitting him. Raising your voice is not the solution, when your child is acting out. The effective parenting approach it’s the most helpful way, which can lead to prompt results. Here are some methods that will help you for sure with your child’s behaviors.
If you go on their level, your message it’s more likely to be listened. Don’t shake your finger or frown at them, they will not listen at what you’re saying. Communicate with your child by using simple words and being there for him, even if he says to you “Leave me alone!”.
When you speak to them, use their first name, so they know it’s about them and you are willing to share your care. Eye contact it’s very important, so focus on them only.
Your child doesn’t have your life experience or wisdom, so, no matter what he did, be compassionate. They are still learning and growing, so speak with them with simple words for a better communication.
Keep your message brief. Your child isn’t capable of understanding sophisticated words or concepts, so keep your message simple. Use simple and small sentences and avoid big words, because it can be confusing for them and this is an issue.
You need to be very patient and give your child some time to respond. Your ability to express yourself is better than your child’s, so focus on what you will say to him.
If you start saying “you are always hitting me” it’s not as effective as saying “I am very sad that you hit me”. Show the emotional connection and include your feeling, when you are talking with your child. Also, you need to encourage your child to respond using “I” statements.
Communicating to your child using this methods will help you to control the situation. Be persistent and you will see the differences.